I’ve got a very good feeling about you. Sure, there’s always the possibility that you’ll have autism like your brother Alex. I just don’t think that’s going to happen. I feel like I know this in my heart like I knew you were going to be a girl when we found out you were coming. It will be another 4 months before we meet but I really think I should try to explain some things to you now.
First, you’re being born into a family that will love you no matter what. Your parents try their best not to repeat your grandparent’s mistakes and we’ve learned a lot about patience and understanding in the five years we’ve been raising Alex. Obviously, I’m telling you the good to set you up for the bad. Well, more like “unfair”. It’s like this: your brother needs a lot of help. You’ll adore and worship him when you’re young and probably for the rest of your life. But there will come a time when you notice that he’s not quite like the other kids. It’s possible that when you’re five years old that you’ll be operating at higher level than him even though he will be twice your age. We’re taking steps to avoid that but you should be prepared for the possibility.
The unfair part is that there’s a strong possibility you’re going to have to look after your older brother in the future. You weren’t made for that purpose. That was not our intention for having you but you will be taught that our family must always support each other. You’re not even born yet and you already have responsibility.
How does that happen? It really does make me feel guilty to think of this. I almost feel like I’m placing some kind of limit on your future paths; like I’m shaping your destiny without your consent or knowledge. I hope you don’t view it as a burden. We’ll try to show you that it isn’t. We’ll try to show you that your life can still be everything you want it to be but that Alex is going to need you as well. He’ll give back to you in his own very rewarding way. He’s a lovely kid and I’m sure you two will get along great.
I just need you to be his protector and at the same time I’ll be doing the very same for you.